Shirt: F21 (thrifted)
Skirt: Old Navy (thrifted)
Handbag: Vintage Coach (thrifted)
I've had this post on my mind for some time, but I've held off on it, I am not the best at expressing myself. However, I think I'll give it a try today. Here's the heads up towards this being a long post.
I think this outfit is in need of some critical thinking. I liked how it felt today but after looking back at the photographs, I can see it needs some work. The flowy top with the pleated skirt is just too much and would it have killed me to work in a print or something visually interesting? There are flaws with this outfit. But in the world of blogging, most will just say, "nice skirt" and not "ah, girl, too much volume today! Try a structured shirt with this skirt next time." It is not cool to offer advice or a critical thought. But you know what? I will love you more if you point out my mistakes and take the time to give me feedback.
When I first started blogging a long, long time ago, a whole eight months to be exact, I was really starry eyed and excited about it. It was fun to start something created since I had dropped my art, writing and riding after I had kids. It was fun to be creative again!
But as the months have gone on and as I've slowly started exploring this blogging world, I've noticed a lack of critical thinking. I wasn't sure at first if this was because it's personal style and therefore somewhat subjective, or maybe just not nice manners, but I was use to the writing and art community where critical thinking and critical advice was thrived upon. I was surprised to see bloggers write in their comment boxes that "only positive thoughts and sparkles and rainbows and unicorns oh my!" were allowed and that all "negative" comments would be deleted. Okey dokey. I get why people don't want cursing in their comments and negative comments means body-bashing or death threats, right?
Nope. I personally learned this a couple days ago. One blogger who I've followed for a while and comment on fairly often had a cute outfit that I really liked, but had something about it that visually threw it off. I made a long, polite comment about what I really like about the comment, then noted that the belt placement threw it off a bit. (I even apologized for mentioning it.) I liked this blogger and being that she seemed to be a lovely, mature lady, I thought she'd be okay with that. Well, the comment was deleted. I was really surprised and made a apology, hoping I hadn't offended her. She replied saying she wanted her blog to be a positive spot and thanks for visiting. I was really thrown and kind of shocked that 1)mentioning the placement of a belt was a negative comment when the majority of the comment was saying what I liked about her look. 2) She felt she had to delete the comment and unfollow me, then pretended she didn't know me and that my thoughts were that unimportant as a reader unless it was in fawning adoration.
And this is a huge problem in the blogging world to me. As readers, unless we fawn over a blogger, our thoughts are not important and we are "omg! Haters! Let's see your blog with millions of hits and followers, then you can talk!" What?! Since when did how many followers or hits relate to my importance as a reader and fellow blogger? Are comments like "Love ur shoes, follow me back!" of more importance? Is that really what it is all about?
Heh, reading back, that does sound like a case of the sour appleson my part, but I've noticed this on many of the bigger blogs or even some of the smaller ones. I'll read a comment above mine, go "yeah, that sounds right, these shoes aren't quite the right fit for this outfit" and then two days later be subjected allowed to a post from the blogger about the haters and negative comments. It is made out to be that so many people are leaving hate mail when one person made a comment about shoes. I get that if you don't like something, don't read it. But don't write off your readers and your fellow bloggers for having a option or a thought in their head.
Critical thinking is how we improve. One commentator left me a comment a week ago stating that my posts were hard to read because I did not spell check enough or edit my posts. She was 100 percent correct and I thank her for taking the time to let me know that. I had a problem with spelling and I'd been coasting lately, hoping no one had noticed. She let me know that people had notice and that will make me step up my game. (Or at least edit.) And not all bloggers write off a reader's critical thought. Gracey over at Fashion for Giants is amazing in dealing with and respecting her readers and their opinions. (One reason I love you Gracey!)
If you've taken the time to read through my ungainly post and scattered thoughts, please note that I am not talking about you! This post in not generated towards any one blogger in general but rather my thoughts on the watering down of opinions within the blogging world.
If I read or follow a blog, it is because you are a awesome babe whose style I like and you have something interesting to say. I take my time to convey (hopefully) that to you because I like and respect you and I respect the time you take posting. I don't comment on every blog out there because I want traffic to my blog. I don't intend to monetize my blog so traffic isn't important nor is having hundreds of followers who say "cool boots" on every post. (Which none of you mega awesome babes do.) I comment on your blogs because I like you. Every once in a while I might comment that a different color might work better, but if I do it is because I respect you and I would hope that you would do that same and call me out on my mistakes. (And lordy, have I ever made some.) I don't mean this post to be a hating on blogging or any one blogger, but rather, hopefully, opening up a line of discussion about something that is missing. I hope that you will take a moment to comment on this, either to blast me and tell me why my head is stuck up my butt or to point out something you feel can be improved.
All you fantastically wonderful women out there who take the time to talk to me, to leave me a comment, all of you who I love, thank you. You are the reason why this is fun. I enjoy this so much, even thought this might not always be a "positive" place. Life is a mix of positive and neutral and negative and to represent only the positive is not a true reflection. I might never get another follower or a new reader, but I've gotten to meet you lovely ladies who I respect and even if you want to tell me to get off my high horse, I respect you for standing up and saying it. Thanks dears!
A note on the silly positive side,
a rare glimpse of the Isabel shark about to attack two unsuspecting victims:
And I will still talk about the stupid weather. I'm an Alaskan. We're crazy about that stuff.
Good gravy on biscuits, this was a long post.